Tenderness towards yourself

Self-tenderness is a kind, realistic attitude towards yourself in moments of error, pain or imperfection.

Definition

This is a practical approach to self-compassion. It does not mean self-indulgence or abdication of responsibility. It combines acknowledgment of difficulties, recognition of our common humanity and a kind response that helps us return to action without self-flagellation. Well-understood tenderness towards yourself supports the regulation of shame and healthier motivation.

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Practice and life

After a mistake, write one sentence of acknowledgment of difficulty, one sentence of responsibility, and one next step.

Common misunderstanding

It is a mistake to confuse tenderness towards yourself with an excuse. The second mistake is to use mild words without real corrective action.

Questions for self-reflection

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