Dependence

Dependence is a condition in which one person, response, need, or part of a system is significantly related to and partially dependent on another.

Definition

Dependence may be biological, emotional, social, practical or systemic. Not all dependency is a problem - people naturally need relationships, resources and support. The problem begins when dependence takes away agency, blocks boundaries, perpetuates fear or prevents independent action where it is needed.

Key ideas

  1. Powiązanie
  2. Potrzeba wsparcia
  3. Ryzyko utraty sprawczości

Practice and life

Write down what you depend on for a given problem: person, resource, emotion, decision, system. Mark which dependencies are healthy and which are limiting.

Common misunderstanding

It is a mistake to consider every dependency a weakness. It is also a mistake to ignore dependency, which perpetuates helplessness.

Questions for self-reflection

  • Co naprawdę podtrzymuje tę zależność?
  • Czy mam w niej wybór?
  • Jaki mały obszar samodzielności mogę odbudować?

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