Co-regulation
Co-regulation is the process in which the presence, tone, rhythm, reactions and safety of another person help regulate arousal and emotions.
Definition
Co-regulation is particularly important in child development, but it also occurs in adult relationships. A calm, responsive presence can help the nervous system recover from alarm. It does not mean dependence or an obligation to regulate the other person at all costs; healthy co-regulation requires boundaries and reciprocity.
Key ideas
- Regulacja przez relację
- Bezpieczna obecność
- Responsywność
Practice and life
Notice who makes it easier for you to breathe and come back to yourself. This is valuable information about the quality of relationships and security.
Common misunderstanding
It is a mistake to confuse co-regulation with taking responsibility for other people's emotions. It is also a mistake to consider self-regulation as something that must always be done alone.
Questions for self-reflection
- Kto pomaga mi wracać do regulacji?
- Czy ta relacja jest spokojna czy alarmująca?
- Jak mogę wspierać kogoś bez rezygnacji z granic?