Self-compassion
Self-compassion is treating yourself with kindness and realism in the face of mistakes, suffering, and imperfections.
Definition
Self-compassion means relating to ourselves with kindness, mindfulness, and realism in times of error, suffering, or imperfection. As Kristin Neff describes it, it involves three elements: self-kindness instead of harsh self-criticism, a sense of shared humanity instead of isolation, and mindfulness instead of being flooded with emotion. It is not self-indulgent, but a way to return to responsible action without paralyzing shame.
Key ideas
- Życzliwość zamiast samobiczowania
- Uznanie, że niedoskonałość jest ludzka
- Uważna obecność wobec trudnych emocji
Practice and life
When you stumble, use three sentences: "This is a difficult moment", "I am not alone with this experience", "What would be supportive and responsible for me now?"
Common misunderstanding
It is a mistake to confuse self-compassion with self-indulgence. A common mistake is to use kind language without actually changing behavior.
Questions for self-reflection
- Jak brzmi mój wewnętrzny głos po błędzie?
- Co powiedziałbym bliskiej osobie w tej samej sytuacji?
- Jak połączyć życzliwość dla siebie z odpowiedzialnym działaniem?