Tenderness towards yourself
Self-tenderness is a kind, realistic attitude towards yourself in moments of error, pain or imperfection.
Definition
This is a practical approach to self-compassion. It does not mean self-indulgence or abdication of responsibility. It combines acknowledgment of difficulties, recognition of our common humanity and a kind response that helps us return to action without self-flagellation. Well-understood tenderness towards yourself supports the regulation of shame and healthier motivation.
Key ideas
- Życzliwość zamiast samokrytyki
- Wspólne człowieczeństwo
- Odpowiedzialny powrót do działania
Practice and life
After a mistake, write one sentence of acknowledgment of difficulty, one sentence of responsibility, and one next step.
Common misunderstanding
It is a mistake to confuse tenderness towards yourself with an excuse. The second mistake is to use mild words without real corrective action.
Questions for self-reflection
- Jak mówię do siebie po błędzie?
- Czy mogę być jednocześnie życzliwy i odpowiedzialny?
- Jaki krok byłby teraz wspierający, a nie karzący?