Cognitive games

Cognitive games are a practical term for the ways in which the mind distorts, bypasses, or arranges interpretations to reduce tension or protect self-image.

Definition

Cognitive games are not a formal diagnostic term, but a name for repetitive thought maneuvers: rationalization, selective filtering of data, shifting blame, black-and-white thinking, or choosing only convenient evidence. Their function is to protect against shame, fear or responsibility. The problem arises when cognitive play replaces contact with facts.

Key ideas

  1. Cognitive distortions
  2. Protecting your self-image
  3. Avoiding difficult facts

Practice and life

For a strong justification, ask: what facts am I leaving out, what emotion am I protecting, and what would I say if I were to be completely honest?

Common misconceptions

It is a mistake to use the concept of cognitive games to judge others. First, it is worth checking your own interpretations. > Sometimes the mind is not looking for the truth, but for a convenient version of events. > — Guru Element

Questions for self-reflection

  • What version of events do I most want to maintain?
  • Which data am I avoiding?
  • What would change if I stopped defending this narrative?

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