Building resilience
Building resilience is developing the resources, skills and relationships that help you recover from stress, loss or adversity.
Definition
Mental toughness is not a fixed trait that some people have and others don't. It can be developed through social support, realistic thinking, emotion regulation, body care, a sense of meaning and experiences of effective coping. It doesn't mean being insensitive or going through it all alone.
Key ideas
- Back to balance
- Resources and relationships
- Learning to cope
Practice and life
After a difficult event, do a short review: what supported me, what weakened me, what I need next time. From this, build one procedure for the future.
Common misconceptions
It is a mistake to confuse resilience with toughness and suppression of emotions. It is also a mistake to expect immunity without sleep, relationships and regeneration.
> Resilience does not mean that nothing hurts, but that a person continues to act despite the pain.
> — Guru Element
Questions for self-reflection
- What helps me recover from stress?
- Who can I ask for support?
- What one coping skill do I want to develop?