Me real
The real self is the way a person perceives his or her current features, capabilities, limitations and behaviors.
Definition
The real self is not a pure fact, but an interpretation of yourself based on experience, feedback and your current emotional state. It may be accurate, underestimated or overestimated. Development requires contact with the real self, because without recognizing the current starting point, goals become fantasy or pressure.
Key ideas
- Current self-image
- Contact with reality
- The starting point of change
Practice and life
Choose one goal and describe your realistic starting point: skills, constraints, resources, time and support.
Common misconceptions
It is a mistake to confuse the real self with self-criticism. It is also a mistake to pretend that limitations do not exist, because then the plan has no contact with reality.
> We often do not update our concept of ourselves, not noticing that the current "I" is different than the one we had before.
> — Guru Element
Questions for self-reflection
- What is my realistic starting point?
- Which facts support my self-image?
- What do I see too harshly or too gently?